I was thinking back on my early days as a wife recently and was remembering all the little extra things I used to do to nurture the sexual-love aspect of my marriage. The things I’m thinking of weren’t huge in and of themselves, but I do think they made a huge difference in my marriage.
For instance, even I–a lover of high heels–am not usually up to mothering all day in pumps. Heels make me feel flirty, though, and I do think my husband likes them, so I used to make a point of slipping them on right before he walked in the door after work. It took very little effort on my part but paid significant dividends. It put me in the mood for romance (which after a long day with little ones is super valuable), delighted my husband, and set a playful tone for our evening.
I’m not trying to be overly hard on myself — I still think I’m a pretty good wife, but the truth is that I haven’t been going the extra mile lately. At least not as often as I’d like.
For instance, I still like to make my husband his coffee in the morning, but I don’t often slip high heels on in the evening anymore. I still like to plan stay-at-home date nights during the week, but these days they usually involve the glow of the television, take-out, and pajamas rather than candles, cute clothes, and my husband’s favorite dessert.
And here’s the thing: I’m really not in a survival season. My littlest one is 19 months old and I feel great. I’ve just gotten out of the habit of doing the little extra things that bless my marriage. I intend to fix that, though — with a little help from you lovely ladies!
I’m looking for inspiration. What is one simple way (or two or three) that a wife can go the extra mile for her husband? I’m not looking for complicated, labor-intensive ideas. Just little things we can do for our favorite guys.
I can’t wait to hear your ideas! Thanks, girls! And happy Easter!