I am not a morning person. I’ve heard rumors that I was, once upon time. Word has it that my parents used to have to forbid me from exiting my bed before the sun rose. But that was before I was a mother of five. Now I savor every last second I can steal beneath my covers.
Still, while I may not be entirely (er, remotely) successful in this arena, I do appreciate the importance of starting the day on the right foot. We’ve all heard the advice to:
- Get up before the kids.
- Start our days with prayer.
- Eat something healthy for breakfast.
In short: we should do everything we can to begin our days in a healthy place, mentally, spiritually, and physically.
So, I was thinking: seeing as how our marriages are the rock upon which our family rests upon, shouldn’t we also be endeavoring to begin our days in a healthy place, romantically-speaking? On those rare occasions when I’ve been able to break free of my early morning grumpiness I’ve so appreciated being able to spend a few moments cultivating love with my husband before we each go about our individual days. It leaves me with a love-fueled spring in my step that blesses my entire day.
Almost four years ago, I wrote a post that included a few simple suggestions for how we wives might shower our husbands with a little morning love. I found revisiting those ideas helpful so I thought I’d share them once again in case any of you could use a little extra inspiration, as well.
- While your guy is showering, pop a couple of towels into the dryer. They will be perfectly toasty in just a couple of minutes and ready for you to wrap him up in. Just be careful he’s not late for work! Wink.
- If pressed, my husband would be forced to admit that there is probably no single woman on the face of the earth who is worse at keeping up with the laundry than me. Still, I aspire to be a woman who makes sure that her husband has clean, ready-to-go clothes waiting for him each morning. I always admire women who help to make their husband’s mornings run more smoothly in this department.
- A hot breakfast seems like such a simple gesture of kindness but the idea of scrambling eggs and bacon and making toast completely overwhelms me in the early morning. I was absolutely ecstatic when I discovered the world of crock pot breakfasts! My husband gets a hot breakfast and I don’t have to cook in the morning! What could be better?
- Or if your husband isn’t much of an early morning breakfast kind of guy simply prepare his favorite morning beverage for him! As a bonus, apply a little lipstick, and wrap his mug in a kiss-laden paper napkin!
- Some husbands have business lunches or prefer to buy their own lunch during the day but Dan always appreciates it when I send him off to work with a brown bag lunch. The great thing about this idea is that it, too, can be done the night before if you’re not a morning person.
- One of my favorite ways to start the romantic day off right is to pen a short note for my husband to read during his work day. My notes are rarely more than three sentences long but they always seem to be appreciated.
- After a decade of marriage, Dan and I just naturally fall into a daily pattern of praying for and serving one another. Remembering to ask whether he has a particular intention I can pray for, or errand I can run for him, always strikes me as a nice little way to show him how much I care.
- On the days when my husband is running late I try to gather his cell phone, wallet, keys, and anything else he might need while he gets ready and put them in one spot. Reducing stress is another great way to show our husbands how much we care.
- On winter days, brave the cold weather and dash out to start his car a few minutes before he has to depart. That way by the time he leaves Jack Frost will have been banished!
- Send your guy off with a few sweet words to hold on to throughout his day. Maybe he’s looking particularly attractive one morning? Tell him! Or just thank him for all the ways he will be providing and caring for you and your family throughout the day.
- By the time my husband is leaving in the morning our kids are often up and running around. Even amidst the chaos we always make sure to kiss each other goodbye. This is probably the easiest thing to do but also the most important. Taking a moment to connect before you part ways will keep your marriage strong through even the busiest phases of life.
Happy (morning) loving, girls! If you have any suggestions to add, I’d love to hear them!