I hope you’re all having lovely mid-Novembers! I still can’t quite believe the holiday season is upon us, can you?
I’m sure that, like me, you’re all super busy, but I just found a great question waiting for me in my inbox and was thinking that maybe we could discuss it between sips of cider and trips to the store! What do you say?
Here, I’ll let you read it…
How do you weather the time when making love is either too stressful or you just plain cannot do it (ie, late pregnancy and postpartum, respectively)? I’m fine waiting until my body heals and is ready but my husband seems like he can’t…
How can we as a couple work through this time, and further, how can he learn to wait? He seems to think that physically, he has to relieve the “pressure”, but I don’t understand why he can’t just work hard to put his mind off of it (and not think about it all the time) and maybe pray more, at least until I can catch up with him? It is really bothering me. I don’t even know how to go about talking about it with him.
We’ve only been married 3 1/2 years, so I realize we will take a long time to understand each other, but I’m at the point where I feel like I am doing something wrong. I try hard to show my love for him in other ways, but he seems to not be able to do this. Is this the way men work? Please help!
Can you help a fellow sweet wife out?
Have you ever been in her shoes? How did you handle it? Has your husband ever shared with you anything that could be done to help ease his burden a bit?
I suspect this is a struggle which many couples face so it would be awesome if those of you who have some insight into this topic would weigh-in! I’ll try to leave my 2 cents in the combox soon!
UPDATE: I’ve been receiving a lot of comments regarding how it’s regrettable that the abstinence challenge is so often framed as pertaining only to men. I certainly didn’t mean to imply that! I was simply seeking to address the questions and concerns of the sweet reader who contacted me. I think it would be great to talk about how to love well when both of husband and wife struggle with the desire to be more physically affectionate than is possible within their current circumstances, though. So, let’s do that soon, yes? Take care, friends!