The new school year is upon us which means that I’m doing that thing I do once a year where I pretend like I’m super organized and efficient and I make lists and set goals and tell myself that the times they are a changin’. I even signed up for a three day a week 6 AM ‘Fat Blasting Bootcamp’ which, if it tells you anything about my state of mind, still sounds like a lovely idea.
I basically own this school year and it hasn’t even begun. That’s how awesome (and in denial) I am. I’m pretty sure I can even hold off the wailing and gnashing of teeth for at least three weeks. (Hold on while I add that to my brand spankin’ new calendar.)
Because no life revamp would be complete without throwing a little love my sweet honey’s way, I also decided to add three small things to my to-do list that will hopefully ease Dan’s earthly burden just a bit.
Prepare to be impressed, girls, because I’m really kicking it up in this category.
- I’m going to start making our bed in the morning. Every day, not just some, chickadees. (I’ll wait while you pick your jaws up off the floor.)
- I added Cabernet Sauvignon to the ‘staples’ section of my grocery list so that Dan will always have a bottle ready to go when the mood strikes.
- And the third one’s a secret. (Wink, wink.)
I know, I know, Wife of the Year over here. Eleven years into marriage and it just occurred to me that making our bed might bless our marriage.
Have you seen those Etsy signs that say things like: In our family we do apologies, forgiveness, honesty, singing around the campfire, and handmade chicken coops? (I tease, but I really do love those.) Well, I’m going to use that artistic gene that I wasn’t born with to create one that says: I do big love and infinitesimally small goals.
And I’ll proudly display it, too, because baby steps make the world go round. (I trust I don’t need to tell this to any of you What About Bob? fans.)
Even though I may be currently floating blissfully in a pool of ambitiousness, I am just self-aware enough to know that my Achilles’ heel has always been that I’m something of an all-or-nothing kind of gal. I push, push, push, until I stumble and then I give up and pack it in until I manage to find my mojo again a few months later. Which is why I’m determined to pace myself and take baby steps.
Yes, huge acts of love and sacrifice are a gift to marriage, absolutely. Sometimes, though, it’s the small gestures done faithfully over time that yield the most extraordinary outcomes.
In the beautiful words of Truman Capote, “Love is a chain of love, as nature is a chain of life.”
So I will make the bed, stock the wine, and all that good stuff. Link by link, I will create flirty, thoughtful, silly, selfless chains of love through small gestures done as consistently as the sun rises.
I will love because love begets love, and love makes the world go round. Love and baby steps, anyway.
Won’t you inspire us, sweet peas? What little things do you to on a regular basis to add to your chain of romantic love?
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥