Your questions about “Spice Up Your Marriage” answered!

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 26, 2014

Hi cutie pies!

First, thank you all so much for your support of Spice Up Your Marriage — A 28-Day Adventure! Thanks to you, she achieved #1 Best Seller status on Amazon! You all are the sweetest! (She would thank you, too, but she’s having a moment.)

 

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A couple of questions about the book have been coming up repeatedly so I thought I’d take a minute to answer them.

A lot of you are wondering whether the book can be used during an NFP season of spacing. Julia answered that question so well (and sweetly!), that I think I’ll just cut and paste her thoughts below:

“As my wee ones are still asleep, I just enjoyed a hot cup of coffee while reading the ebook from start to finish. First off — great work, Hallie! I especially loved the postscript on “alone time” — such great advice! While I am not going to assume what others might find cheeky or blush worthy, I found the contents written with honesty, compassion, and utmost respect for women, their husbands, and the marital act. The language was suggestive without being “in your face” (a breath of fresh air compared to most mainstream material on the topic).

Re: couples in an NFP “season of spacing”… Even though many assignments focus on physical intimacy (directly or as the natural progression of things), some focus more so on other aspects of the relationship (communication, emotional connection, etc.) Assuming that you could pick and choose assignments out of sequence (and I don’t see why not), those abstaining during fertile periods could still intentionally set aside time for one another to work on emotional intimacy (e.g., Day 15). For that matter, it would help build anticipation for physical reunion a few days later. ;-) “

A few of you have also asked whether there is a way to read the book if you don’t have a Kindle. Kindle does offer a free reader for PC and for Mac users (there’s an app for iPhones, as well). Eventually, I may upload it for Nook but formatting it for Kindle was a bit of an ordeal so it may be a while. (If for some reason none of those options work, email me and we can do a Paypal/PDF thing.)

Oh, and for those of you who do have Kindles but are worried about little people stumbling upon your spicy download, Calee offers a few suggestions here. (Thanks, Calee!)

And last but not least, many thanks to those of you who’ve left kind reviews, shared the book with your friends, and/or have helped me to promote the book on social media. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your help!

If any of you would be willing to leave a review on Amazon, it would mean the world. The more positive reviews a book receives, the higher Amazon will rank it and the better it will be promoted. (BTW — anonymous reviews are fine. Just fine. Wink, wink.)

 

With so much love and gratitude!

Hallie

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Spice Up Your Marriage – A 28-Day Adventure

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 21, 2014

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Girls! My eBook, Spice Up Your Marriage – A 28-Day Adventure, is on Amazon!

I’m so excited!

For those of you who are wondering what on earth would compel me to write about such a (potentially) embarrassing topic, all I can tell you is that I apparently have no sense of self-preservation. (Wink.)

All kidding aside, I decided to pen this 50-page eBook for two reasons:

1) There is CRAZY demand. I wrote a post a while back entitled Spicing Up Your Marriage (without 50 Shades of Grey) that is (by far) the most viewed post on my entire site every single day.

My stats look like this, again, every single day:

 

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And my inbox is flooded with email from women asking if I have any tips for how to revitalize the sexual-love aspect of their marriage.

2) This is an important area that is too often not discussed. Which is something that needs to change. Cultivating a satisfying sexual relationship does not come easily for every couple. And judging from the email I receive, when a couple is struggling in this area it places a huge strain on the union.

Women are constantly telling me that they feel hopeless because they don’t know how to fix this issue and they don’t know where to go to get answers. Asking Google for advice is like stepping into a virtual adults-only XXX store. I wanted to write an eBook that would offer tips for spicing up your marriage in a way that doesn’t demean, disrespect, or objectify the participants.

Even couples who have had a satisfying intimate life in the past can find that it’s easy to deprioritize the sexual-love aspect of their relationship amidst the busyness and stress of daily life. There is a great temptation to choose sleep over sex. And sometimes we should! I am never more miserable to be around than when I am sleep-deprived.

But here’s the thing: marriage is the foundation our families rest upon. We simply can’t afford to neglect it. Obviously, there are many areas of marriage that need our attention, but from what I’ve seen, when the sexual-love component falters, tensions rise incredibly quickly.

Plus, all these spicy activities are such stress-relievers! Who among us couldn’t use a little extra stress-relief?

So, I thought, why not pen a little 28-day guide to putting the spark and spice back into your relationship with minimal effort and lots of fun?

There are three options each day — a mild, medium, and hot — so that you can tailor it to your needs, your comfort level, and your desires (and use the guide countless times without repeating the same journey). While some of the hot options are pretty spicy (so, prepare yourself for that), none of them disrespect the participants. I’m all about self-giving, satisfying, and respectful sweet lovin’. If you encounter something in this book that just doesn’t feel comfortable to you personally, move on.

Anyway, I hope you enjoy it! Thanks for your support, cutie pies!

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Five Favorites (vol. 57)

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 20, 2014

Five Favorites, hosted at MoxieWife.com

1.

Spice Up Your Marriage

Spice Up Your Marriage by Hallie Lord

Hands down, my most popular post to date is Spicing Up Your Marriage (without 50 Shades of Grey). Since I’m quite fond of this topic (wink), I thought it would be fun to create a similarly themed eBook. It came in a little over 50 pages and I’m just so happy with it. I’ll have more details for you soon, but basically it guides the reader and their spouse through a 28-day adventure intended to kick things up a notch in the bedroom (without ever demeaning or objectifying the participants). It should be on Amazon before the end of the week. I’ll keep you posted!

(UPDATE: It’s now available on Amazon!)

2.

Momnipotent

Momnipotent by Danielle Bean

Danielle was the first female Catholic writer that I discovered after I converted. While I love everything she writes, I love Momnipotent best of all. It’s Danielle at her very best (which is saying a lot). And look up at the blurb at the top! That’s me! Since it’s a little blurry, here’s what I said:

In true Danielle Bean fashion, this book is a balm for the weary mother’s soul. It will bring hope and encouragement to any mom who’s ever uttered the words, I can’t do this.

I just know you’re going to love it.

3.

Feast!

Feast! by Daniel and Haley Stewart

I’ve been meaning to recommend Haley and Daniel‘s book, Feast!, to you for months. I’m sure that by now you all have a copy but if not, you must add this one to your library! It’s an absolute treasure.

4.

The Little Oratory

The Little Oratory by David Clayton and Leila Marie Lawler

Sophia Institute Press recently kindly sent me The Little Oratory by Leila Lawler and David Clayton (and illustrated by Deirdre Lawler). I fell in love with it the moment I opened the package. It’s just beautiful – the kind of book that is pleasure to simply hold in your hands. There are even full-color icons included that can be torn out of the book and displayed in your home! The advice is top notch, too (as you can imagine).

5.

Surprised by Motherhood

Surprised by Motherhood by Lisa-Jo Baker

Every time I need a little encouragement, I head to Lisa-Jo’s blog. I know of very few people who can inspire the way she can. Surprised by Motherhood is every bit as wonderful as the posts on her site. If you’re a mom in need of a little boost, you simply must buy this book.

 

Happy reading!

Hallie

 

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥


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Five Favorites (vol. 56)

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 13, 2014

Five Favorites

Hi sweet peas!

Well, I hope you like your favorites fast and easy because it’s been a whirlwind of a wonderful day.

This morning Jen and I had an Edel meeting which lasted two and a half hours instead of the mere one we’d planned on (1st favorite because…hello, charism!). Then, my oh-so cute and strangely persuasive kids (2nd favorite) convinced me to take them to the pool where we swam and soaked up the sun for over three hours (3rd favorite). After that, my irresistible husband (4th favorite) suggested that we watch the new season of 24 together (5th favorite). Now I’m about to dive into bed to continue savoring this delicious piece of chick lit pie (bonus favorite!)

See? Five Favorites! ;)

Life is good. Ridiculously good. It just doesn’t always leave much time to craft detailed favorites.

You forgive me, don’t you?

I can’t wait to read your finer, fab-er, more fantastic favorites, girlie girls!

 

Mwah!

Hallie

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥


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Harshing My Mellow

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 7, 2014

I have a child who had the hardest time learning to ride his bike. Siblings much younger than this sweet child of mine were racing up and down the street but he just couldn’t put all the pieces together. As traumatic experiences go, I guess it was mild, but it felt huge and stressful and potentially life-ruining for a very long time.

I made the mistake of trying to comfort him when he was struggling with something unrelated by saying, “Don’t worry, sweetie. It’s just like riding bike! It can be hard at first but once you get it, it will be easy for the rest of your life.”

Hello, Foot. Meet Mouth.

He replied, fairly enough, by saying, “So what you’re saying is that it’s going to be the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, I will struggle for years, and perhaps never succeed?” (I paraphrase. His comedic timing is much better than mine.)

The good news (in a the clouds parted and all the angels sang kind of way) is that he is now a bike riding master. In fact, 4/6 of my crew are training wheels-free and I know it’s only bike riding but I feel like it’s the biggest victory I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. Top 3, minimum.

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Anyway, I bet you think I’m about to draw some analogy to how marriage is really, really hard in the beginning but then you figure it out and it becomes super easy and free of strife.

Hahahahahahaha. You’d never think that, would you?

No, today I’m talking about…window washing. I find window washing as difficult, frustrating, and unintuitive as my child found bike riding. Don’t even try to tell me that all I need is Windex and a cloth because that doesn’t work in my universe. The streaks! And the dirty corners! And the dust specks!

I die.

No, seriously. I’m trapped in some sort of window washing Purgatory and I’m desperate to get free. So, please (pretty with a cherry on top-style) get down on your knees, offer up your suffering, and leave all your brilliant advice in the combox.

Because as I mentioned yesterday, I’m in a rare spring cleaning-obsessed mood and these windows are harshing my mellow in a big, big way.

Thank you in advance, peaches. You’re the best. Always.

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Five Favorites, Rhodes Log-style

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 6, 2014

Five Favorites

Hey there, cutie pies!

In a completely out of character move, I got swept away on a wave of spring cleaning zeal today. I was so into it that I didn’t even realize until this afternoon that it was Five Favorites day. Oops! Lucky for me, beautiful Kate agreed to step in and cover for me. (Thank you, sweet pea!)

Just head over to her lovely blog, The Rhodes Log, to link-up!

 

See you all next week!

Hallie

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In which I didn’t pick a fight!

by Hallie @ Moxie Wife on May 1, 2014

Do you know what I love? Sending Dan my latest blog post which includes the line…

“Don’t get me wrong, had you peeked into the windows of my home these past few months, you probably wouldn’t have seen a serene woman down on her knees. But you might have seen a wife who poured out a bit more love…”

…after I’d spent the last 24 hours glaring at him, grunting rather than speaking, and just generally stomping around like my three-year-old daughter. (Wince.)

Charlie is sleeping through longer stretches at night (and now I am terrified that I just uttered those words! please don’t leave me, sweet slumber!), nursing is less frequent, and I suspect that my hormones are all confused and angry and mercurial.

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Everything has been irritating me.

E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.

So, just to recap, I’d been glaring and stomping for days when I felt inspired to write the lobster post.

At first I felt dishonest. Or at least like I was being a bit misleading. But then I thought back on this week and realized that it was actually the perfect example of the ways in which Dan and I have grown as a couple.

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What I felt like doing throughout the last few days was to bring to his attention every last little thing that I found maddening. And I’m sure what he felt like doing was to tell me about the things that he felt found maddening (namely me, my glaring, grunting, and stomping).

But I bit my tongue because somewhere deep down inside I knew that I was being irrational and that any pleasure I’d derive from venting would quickly be crushed by disharmony. (Apparently I also managed to find of modicum self-control at some point.)

As for Dan, he didn’t comment on my passive-aggressive tantrum though I’m sure he could have offered me all sorts of constructive criticism. Instead, he just let it play out, knowing, I suppose, that I’d eventually find my way back to serenity (or at least stability).

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And that feels pretty great to me. No, I didn’t smile in spite of inner turmoil and yes, I derived a certain ugly satisfaction from making my displeasure known (albeit in a less verbal way than I once would have) but I didn’t pick a fight.

I didn’t pick a fight!!!

The storm rolled through, and the trees bent in the wind, but then the sun came shining back through the leaves and all was well. The damage was minimal and love reigned supreme.

So, yeah, progress.

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